Friday, December 11, 2009

Breaking up is hard to do

My stomach feels kind of queasy from thinking about it.  

Should I do it over the phone?  Is that too impersonal?  Should I not say anything and be like that guy that dates a girl and then one day just stops calling?  

That guy's a dick.  I don't want to be that guy.

Breaking up with someone sucks.  

It's a bummer to be dumped, but I think sometimes it's even harder to do the dumping.  There's guilt over hurting the other person's feelings.  Will they be devastated?  Will they cry?  Will they turn it back on me and make me feel like an asshole?

But when you know that a relationship has run it's course, when you've given it every chance to succeed and it's obviously not working, it's time to bite the bullet.

I take a deep breath and steel myself.

I pick up the phone and make the call.
"Hi, this is Wendy."

"Hi, Wendy.  What can I do for you?"

"Well, I was in last week and Rita* cut my hair, and I feel terrible for saying this, but it just looks awful."

"Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that!"

"Yeah, and she had already messed it up once, and I went back to her to get it fixed, but basically she gave me the same cut that I didn't like, only shorter.  So I need someone else to rescue it."

"No problem.  We will have one of our master stylists fix it for you, and we won't charge you, of course."
Sorry, Rita.  It's not me, it's you.

*not her real name


  1. Anonymous8:56 AM

    I had a similar experience with a "master natural stylist" in Cobb County. After spending 4 hrs (with Munchkin in tow) & an exhorbent amount of money for a style that lasted only 2 hrs after leaving the salon, I called back & told the stylist that I was VERY dissatisfied with the end result & the amount that I had to pay for it. She tried to be very accommodating and even offered to come to my house to fix it. But at that point, I was so peeved at the time & money I'd already spent, I declined her offer.

    Won't be going back to her again. Ever.


  2. You're braver than me. Recently my long-time stylist started slacking off on my cuts and instead of any confrontation I just switched salons. Of course, on haircut 2 with new guy he wrecked my layers 5 weeks from my wedding. So, now I'm back to square one after my old Charleston guy does my wedding cut/color/do.

    I guess I get my fill of confrontation by prosecuting professional and occupational licensees all day long. :)