tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32156383.post2042209274009201371..comments2023-10-05T05:59:39.620-06:00Comments on Wendy's Excellent Adventure: Yelling is the new spanking*Wendyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14574959237959082661noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32156383.post-77425650761591538822010-08-18T20:09:46.235-06:002010-08-18T20:09:46.235-06:00You're not a heartless bastard. And I do beli...You're not a heartless bastard. And I do believe in the stick and the carrot. The stick being time-outs (which he hates and the threat of which are powerful deterrents) and the denial of privileges or preferred items or activities. And I'm not saying that it's out of bounds to ever raise your voice or speak sternly to show you mean business - it can be very effective, and I do it plenty. But there's yelling and there's yelling. I just don't see any benefit to either of us for me to scream in his face like a lunatic, which is pretty much what I did.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574959237959082661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32156383.post-69319398693883864402010-08-18T17:24:29.580-06:002010-08-18T17:24:29.580-06:00Is yelling really so bad? Nobody is solely motiva...Is yelling really so bad? Nobody is solely motivated by the rewards of doing good. You need the stick and the carrot, right? Or no? I haven't done this obviously. Your behavior seems kind of justified given the fact that you are, after all, human, and Zeke is not exactly completely unaware of his behavior. He's a smart kid after all. Or am I a heartless bastard?Samhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06143593386926930899noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32156383.post-81918678226630201082010-08-18T14:34:47.865-06:002010-08-18T14:34:47.865-06:00Thanks, Lisa. I know it's not the end of the ...Thanks, Lisa. I know it's not the end of the world, but I just feel really guilty. But I'll get over it.Wendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14574959237959082661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32156383.post-1929698982362781662010-08-18T13:42:41.852-06:002010-08-18T13:42:41.852-06:00Seriously, parenting is not for the faint of heart...Seriously, parenting is not for the faint of heart. Your mother is right, of course. Zeke will be fine. I would have lost my stuff over the nail polish thing, too.<br /><br />I yelled at my kids when they were little. It does get better. I rarely raise my voice now. Which surprises me because they still do dumb things, thoughtless things.lisahgoldenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11158660223296807317noreply@blogger.com